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Ask the Right Question, Get the Right Answer: Solve Your Sewing Dilemmas Every Time

Ask the right questions and you will get the right answer. I share examples of what questions to ask using the 5 Whys Method but basing it on your Sewing Style Type. This way you get an answer tailored to you.

Now if you just want a list of ideas here you go, but if you truely want the gift to resonate, stick with me and try this, the result will be much more rewarding.

 

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Why use the 5 Whys Method and What Is It

Have you ever sat in front of your fabric stash, full of good intentions, but with no idea what to make? You know you can't buy any more. You really need to use up what you already have but ideas allude you.

Or maybe you’ve been stuck wondering what to sew for someone you love — afraid of getting it wrong or wasting something beautiful. Cutting into that special piece of fabric!

The truth is, when we say things like “I don’t know what to sew” or “I don’t know what to make him,” we’re usually circling around the real problem — not naming it directly. And if you can’t name the problem, it’s very hard to solve it.

That’s where the 5 Whys method comes in.

Originally used in design thinking and problem-solving frameworks, the 5 Whys is a simple but powerful tool. You take a surface-level problem, ask “Why?” five times, and gradually uncover what’s actually holding you back. And once you can name the real issue, the solution becomes obvious and often much simpler than you thought.

I use it when creating fabric design collections that I pitch to men's clothing brands. I find it incredibly useful so I am not wasting my time or theirs.

In this blog, I walk you through how this method works for three different sewing styles:

  • Spontaneous Creator (who follow instinct and buy fabric based on feeling)
  • Creative Maker (who want each project to feel expressive and original)
  • Meticulous Planner (who thrive on structure and intention)

You’ll see how each type gets stuck for different reasons and how to unlock progress by simply asking the right question.


Key Takeaways

Most sewing problems are just surface-level symptoms. The real issue is hiding underneath.

  • The 5 Whys method helps you uncover what’s really going on, so you can solve the right problem the first time.
  • Different sewing styles get stuck for different reasons — knowing your style helps you move forward with confidence and ease.
  • Let’s take a closer look at how this works, starting with one of the most common questions I hear: “I don’t know what to sew.”

Lets start with you and then we will address some common questions when making for others.

 

🧵 PROBLEM 1: "I don't know what to sew?"

This question is being explored from three perspectives - our three different sewer types

  • Spontaneous Creator
  • Creative Maker
  • Meticulous Planner 


✨ SPONTANEOUS CREATOR


1. Why don’t you know what to sew?

→ Because I haven’t had a spark of inspiration yet.

2. Why hasn’t anything inspired you yet?

→ Because I haven’t seen a fabric or pattern that excites me.

3. Why?

→ Because I haven’t looked with a purpose — just waited for something to grab me.

4. Why haven’t you looked with purpose?

→ Because I usually rely on impulse rather than intention to start a project.

5. Why?

→ Because I want the next project to feel meaningful — not just fun.

 

Summary

You’re craving spontaneity with more purpose. Once you aim your instinct at something meaningful, the spark returns. It is an important rule of creativity - creativity excels when given boundaries.

Tool/Tip

Use this Sewing Spark List:
•    3 things you like to wear
•    2 upcoming events
•    1 feeling you want to express (e.g. fun, sexy, comfortable)

 

🎨 CREATIVE MAKER


1. Why don’t you know what to sew?

→ Because I want it to be expressive and original, but I’m stuck.

2. Why are you stuck?

→ Because I have too many ideas and none feel quite right.

3. Why?

→ Because they’re not grounded in something meaningful to me.

4. Why?

→ Because I haven’t clarified what I want this project to say or do.

5. Why?

→ Because I want to feel proud of the end result, not just finish it.

 

Summary

You’re not lacking ideas, you are lacking direction. Once you define the story or emotion, the right idea appears.

Tool/Tip

Use your Fabric Formula to define your Colour Type and create within thoughtful constraints.

 

📋 METICULOUS PLANNER


1. Why don’t you know what to sew?

→ Because I haven’t decided on a clear, useful project.

2. Why are you stuck?

→ Because nothing seems to match my current plan or fill a clear need.

3. Why?

→ Because I prefer sewing things that fit into a bigger plan.

4. Why?

→ Because I don’t have a framework to evaluate spontaneous ideas.

5. Why?

→ Because I don’t want to waste time, money or effort.

 

Summary

You’re not indecisive — you just need a system to assess ideas against your goals and move forward with confidence.

Tool/Tip

Use the Capsule Wardrobe Planner: What’s missing? What season’s coming? What’s your current colour balance? 

But a more immediate checklist for you is what I also recommended for the "Spontaneous":- Use the Sewing Spark List:
•    3 things you like to wear
•    2 upcoming events
•    1 feeling you want to express (e.g. fun, attractive, comfortable)

 

I also created a Gift Edition - when you're not sewing for yourself but someone else!

 

Now for questions you might have about others. Questions like:

  • I don’t know what to sew my husband for his birthday
  • I don’t know what to make my boyfriend for Valentine’s Day
  • What can I make my son for Christmas?
  • What gift can I make my friend who is hosting lunch?

I have created a free printable for you that you can instantly download. You don't need to enter details - just click the image and save to your computer. 

It isn't just for sewing projects, but for all challenges you have that you haven't bee able to clearly define so you can solve the root of the problem.

Never set about solving the wrong problem again. It's a huge time saver!

 

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Frequently Asked Questions

1. What is the 5 Whys method and why does it work for sewing?

The 5 Whys is a simple way to dig into a surface-level problem by asking “Why?” repeatedly until you reach the root cause. In sewing, it helps you uncover what’s really holding you back — so you can take action that actually works.

2. How do I know which sewing style I am — Spontaneous, Creative, or Planner?

Your style is based on how you start your projects. If you sew by feel, you’re likely Spontaneous. If expression and originality drive you, you’re Creative. If you love a structured plan, you’re a Planner. Not sure? Take the free Sewing Style Quiz.

3. What if I relate to more than one sewing style?

That’s totally normal! Many sewers blend styles depending on the project. Start with the style that feels most dominant for the situation you’re in right now.

4. Can I use the 5 Whys even if I’m not stuck?

Yes! It’s a great tool for clarity, refining decisions, and avoiding wasted time or materials. It works just as well when planning as when problem-solving.

5. What’s inside the free guide Ask the Right Question, Get the Right Answer?

It’s a printable reference with common sewing dilemmas, 5 Whys examples for each style, and tools to help you get unstuck — fast. Keep it beside your sewing machine or notebook as your go-to decision guide.


Conclusion

Sometimes when we say “I don’t know what to sew,” we’re really saying, “I want it to matter, but I don’t know how.”

The 5 Whys method helps you name the real problem so you can find the right solution. Whether you’re sewing for yourself or someone you love, knowing your sewing style gives you the confidence to move forward with clarity and purpose.

  • The Spontaneous Creator needs a spark of inspiration, grounded in meaning.
  • The Creative Maker needs a story, not just an idea.
  • The Meticulous Planner needs a framework that connects intention to practicality.

Once you know what’s really holding you back — you can fix it, plan it, or let it go.

 

🎁 Ready to solve your sewing dilemmas with confidence?

Download "Ask the Right Question, Get the Right Answer" — your printable 5 Whys guide that helps you uncover what’s really holding you back.

It gives 3 examples of gifting problems that you can use for guidance.

Whether you’re a Spontaneous, Creative, or Planner Sewer, this resource will help you make sewing decisions that feel exciting, personal, and right for you.

 

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